with love comes about what we have always refered to as "tolerance level". this term was coined when we were just pals as we realise there are some people whom we just cannot stand no matter how sweet they try to be, everything they do just irritate the daylight out of us = low tolerance....conversely there are those that we will give in too, make excuses for their bad behavior and accept them = high tolerance. the above 2 categories of people can do the same thing but get different reactions from us. WE happen to have the highest tolerance level possible for each other....yes dear, u do irritate me and so do i to u but heng ah our tolerance ratings are sky high =)
there are people who just have nothing to say to each other and then there are people who are selective about who they talk to and there are chatterboxes like me who just can't stop yakking. he happens to be a very private person but with me he claims, he has revealed so many things and he is also starting to like relating his daily incidences to me. we are also able to tell each other frankly what we want, what are our visions and really understand each other's points of view.
on interest, we probably do not have alot of common interests to begin with. but as we grow together, we learn together and are picking up common activities that we both enjoy. i think that is more important then having ready common interests as those may be a phase and die out but having the same frequency and being able to like the same new things, that's critical. we share alot of common believes such as family values (we both have extremely strict folks and we love kids), working ethics (damn the politic racking people), visions of the future and some intrinsic believes.
he really thinks its rare that we can find each other and match in all the 3 factors that he deems as important. hmmm...food for thought...let me chew on this first.
