Loving someone who loves himself more

The most tiring thing has got to be loving someone who is self-centered. When I love someone, he is always on my mind. If I walk pass a shop or see something, I will naturally look out for things he may like or interesting things that I can tell him about. I will look forward to spending time with him.

Time during the journey in the car, time spent being at the same place at the same time does not count! Being physically near does not equate spending time together. Spending time means having a chat, cuddling together to watch a movie and laughing at the same scenes, taking a walk hand in hand with no other distractions other then shared thoughts. This I feel is the main thing that he cannot understand.

my notion of bad day = when u go from one shit hole to another after trying so hard

Poochie is a good way to show this. To me spending time with poochie is fun, is good and is also expected since we chose to add him to our lives. However if every night 95% of the time is spent focusing on poochie, 1 on 1 time between him and poochie and I only get the miserly 5mins before bed, the equation is seriously skewed and wrong. He obviously enjoys time with the poochie, so do I but if he only focus on what he likes doing, it means A) I am not even on his list of likable/enjoyable activity B) he only cares about his own happiness by doing what he enjoys and care naught about my feelings.

The same for today. I am sure he can take 40mins to have lunch if he will sacrifice play time with the poochie when he is home. In fact it will not be 40mins because even if he tabaos he will still take the same time to buy the food and eat it. The difference in time will just be maybe 15-20mins travelling. I just cannot understand why he cannot give me 20mins given that he has to leave for D again and this time in the afternoon!

I am pissed! Fine both can play the self centered game u know. We shall see.

Just For Laughs

Got this thru email....enjoy

If Fed Ex and UPS were to merge, would they call it Fed UP?

Do Lipton tea employees take coffee breaks?

If olive oil comes from olives, where does baby oil come from?

If people from Poland are called Poles, whay aren’t people from Holland called Holes?

Do infants enjoy infancy as much as adults enjoy adultery?

Why is it that men who invest all your money are called brokers?

If horrific means made horrible, does terrific mean made terrible?

Why is it called building when it is already built?

If a book about failures doesn’t sell, is it a success?

If you’re not supposed to drink and drive, then why do bars have parking lots?

If you take an Oriental person and spin him around several times, does he become disoriented?

If vegetarians eat vegetables, what do humanitarians eat?

Socks Monkey

Just this morning he asked what to do with the pair of socks that has a tiny hole near the toes area. I chanced upon these today:

simple cute sock-dogs

wooo cool sock monkeysocks friends

hehe dun worry darling I am not going use your old socks to do such cute socks toys. Nah not even for the poochie. I may however eye your new socks to do THIS >> =P

Guessimation Cooking

I am not one who can follow recipes. I cannot measure this, weigh that to precision as per stated. I am also not able to buy exactly every single ingredient. Some recipes ask for 1 pinch of lemon zest for e.g. so what am I to do with the lemon later after taking 0.1% of the skin only? Or those that ask for 1/2 a stalk fo lemon grass, firstly I cannot find anywhere that sells me 1 stalk only so I will end up with a bunch only to make use of 1/2 stalk. See not environmentally friendly la to waste food!

So I rely very much on guessimation and substitution on whim. Yeah sometimes the results are ok but sometimes not so. As such although I do accumulate my own pile of recipes, I usually just flip thru for ideas, wait for the light bulb to go Ting and then I will make something up that may totally not use similar ingredients. There were some wonderful yummy dishes and some which the man just refuse to take another mouth of =P

However this method cannot work when it comes to baking. My attempt at baked donuts turned out disarsterous. It was like a chewy tasteless pale yellow glob. Yucks!

I am however most motivated to try to make the measurements when baking for Daddy, I am not biased but Daddy is diabetic and he is deprived of alot of desserts and baked products. I was so happy when he loved the sugarless scones with nuts. Now I have found a recipe for savory bread with no sugar too. Let's hope there will be some free time to try this out this weekend.

The Ideal Wedding

After endless research, surfing the net like mad, emailing and calling for quotes and proposals, nagging the man with my opinions, we finally decided on holding 2 separate events for friends and family.

Friends part will be in the afternoon for solemnization cocktail at a really nice and beautiful venue. Canapes and sweets will be served and guests have a choice of the air conditioned room or to hang around the lush greenary outside with pavillions and sofas. Drinks and canapes will be served by butlers and I shall make a grand entrance from above, down the stairs to my waiting groom out to the pavillion to sign my life away as his maid uhhhh ahem i meant soul-mate.

Relatives always place the yummy quotient above the venue location/deco. Thus we have shortlisted 2 well-known restaurants that meets our "no cheesy restaurant" motto. This is relatively more affordable compared to ballrooms in hotels and more exceptable compared to non-5 stars hotels which we did not like.

So there expectations all met and expenditure reduced by half. Sis warns that we will be very tired with no time to rest the entire day (i am teochew so the day will start early) and may not look good in photos. But I assured her that the savings plus the loveliness of the arvo event will make us glow from within. HAHHAHA. More updates later when things are firmed.

Better get married fast

Planning for a wedding is more painful than planning for the reno of the house I feel. With the house we only had to contend with ourselves. For a wedding it seems, everyone has 2 cents to share.

We are kinda late in our planning it seems as many ideal places are already reserved by others. If we were willing to spend all our fortune and maybe even take a loan my friend, things would be a lot simpler cos I will just fly all my guest to an exotic island, build a air conditioned tentage/ mini ball room smack in the middle of the island and let them sigh at how wonderful my wedding is.

Poof! Back to reality. I want to have a nice memory of what will be the most impt day of my life in 2009. Ok ok probably my entire life next to the birth of my future child =P ......BUT I am so not willing to spend $10-15k treating a typical wedding dinner which gets forgotten the next day no matter if that dinner costs me $140 per pax. ($10-15k net cost calculated based on ave $100 ang pows and those tables taxed by the female government aka my mum). I mean I will not thank the bride and groom for eternity for holding their dinner at Conrad cos the food is good and the surrounding nice. I will say thanks a lot on that day and maybe brag about it for them to a couple of friends over coffee in the next month and then "huh what exp dinner". What's worse is that the typical aunty/relative crowd who always have something to complain about regardless of whether the cook is reknown or not. EH auntie u paid $50 ang pow so sshhhhh up.

Ok probably all the banquet checking and venue sourcing is making me cynical. The prices are horrendous in 2009. All 5-stars hotel charge above $1k per table of 10 or have some 40-50 min table requirements. It is said that there is 10% increase every wear, so my dear pak-tor-ing couples get married fast if you are still pondering when cos ang pow $$ increase never matches up to the dinner cost inflation!

Pink-ed

I love pink. Not just any pink, but baby/pale/sweet pink. But i stop at spraying my car pink like some weird random cars I saw on the road today. Somethings just will not look good pink!

This however makes my heart missed a beat.

ahhhh just the right shade of pink.......

Why so busy???

Really am baffled why we always feel that there is so much to do and so little time? I mean we are not the only one who have a dog, work, no maid etc but why issit that i see our friends having the leisure time to go for coffee sessions, shopping trips or outings when I can hardly finish all there is to do.

Weekdays we reach home between 8.15-9.30 usually. Whether or not I cook or we do take-outs tabao-ed meals and walk the poochie, the clock always read 10 - 11pm when we finally get to sit down on the sofa for a breather. Then we have to shower and get ready to bed between 12-1am. So on weekdays there is hardly anytime to squeeze in washing/cleaning or shopping other then a quick zip to supermart once a week.

On Friday, as I do not work on Sat, I will do 1 load of washing out of 3 (light colored, dark colored and towels). The man will help to vacuum/mop the floor. We are almost always the only ones home on Friday nights based on the emptiness of the carpark!

Sat morning whilst the man goes off to work, I will start the other load of washing :

• 9.30am - Load washing machine
• 9.35am - Ironing
• 10.35am - Break of 10mins to play fetch with poochie
• 10.45am - Hang out washed load
• 11.15am - Prepare food for the next week such as making soup stock, marinating and chopping up meats
• 12.30pm - Wash both toilets (ya unglam!)
• 1.00pm - Wipe surfaces and if nec mop the floor again
• 2.00pm - Man comes home =)
  

Who says 5 days work weeks means happy weekend? I seem to do more on the Sat half day then those who goes for the 1/2 day work in air con comfort =(

Remainder of Sat and Sun will be spent on errands, home-visit to ma and pa, poochie outing to dog run and poochie training class. And another week is gone.......